Being your own Valentine

I’m kind of Meh about this so called Lovers Day but who am I to deprive the boy of an opportunity to buy me a gift or some flowers :P

I do think it’s stupid that we have a whole day to point out that being single isn’t normal, in the name of higher sales figures of course.

It’s stupid enough that people wonder why you’re single, like what’s your major flaw or you’re so cute, how can you be single? Bleh.

On a daily basis, we're told that finding The One is the most important thing (apart from being pretty but that’s linked to The One too). It’s in our TV shows, movies, music, it’s on magazine covers: Find your soul mate and you’ll live happily ever after.

So, in between all the girlfriends/ wives comparing V day stories and the ‘forever alone’ tweets, remember that being single isn’t about waiting for the next The One. Being single is about being strong, independent and having a choice. It’s about You being enough for you. It’s about happiness on your own standards.

And being in a relationship isn’t about having someone ‘complete’ you. It’s not about someone loving and validating you while you don’t do the same to yourself. Yeah we all crave human companionship and affection, but it’s nothing unless you give yourself the same love and respect as you would expect from that special someone. It really doesn’t matter if you’re single or not. Love comes in so many forms and relationships that it’s stupid to pin this one relationship above being a parent, friend or sister.

I can’t believe we have a day to celebrate how much this other person loves us or how much we love this person, but there’s no day to celebrate how much we love ourselves. Says something about our society, don’t you think?

Love.